Getting your life together means that, whether you believe you’re living a good or bad life overall, you actually have control over it instead of just letting it happen to you.
Many of us just let our lives happen to us and unfortunately, this prevents us from feeling fulfilled. After all, if you do not control it, how can you truly feel good?
Obviously, some have tougher lives than others.
However, it is usually only for those, or during difficult times, that we decide to “get our life together”.
Indeed, if you are feeling rather good overall, why would you need to change anything? It’s because you don’t hold the keys in your hand.
So here’s a tiny list of three things which, while they won’t change your life directly, will put the keys in your hand and give you at least the opportunity to act positively towards a more fulfilling life.
Get your focus on
Focus is a topic I’ve been covering a lot nowadays and it’s for a reason.
With so many distractions around us, focusing on one single thing has become a difficult task for most of us.
However, more than focus itself, it’s what is contained in the action of focusing which is important: Awareness.
Awareness is gaining traction these days and you may be seeing it pop up more and more. The reason is, again, simple: it brings back the control of your thoughts back to you.
Yes, it won’t directly allow you to act on those, but at least you will have it.
Being aware of who you are, how you think, how you act or react, and so on, will push you to get yourself in situations where you can anticipate your reaction before you even start on those.
Having awareness of how your thoughts are wandering or how they are locked on one thing, and knowing which state you are in will allow you to use those at their maximum.
For example, you wanted to paint something but cannot seem to concentrate enough during the sessions you start? This certainly means you are not well aware of the state of mind you need when you paint. Think back on previous experiences and find the state of mind you were in.
I’m not saying it’ll instantly make you become able to focus, but at least you won’t be wasting time pushing through when your mind isn’t in the right place.
You don’t have a perfect memory
Obviously, you’ve lived quite a few years. No matter your age, your life has been filled with experiences day in and day out. How could you remember everything!
You simply can’t.
But you can remember more than what you do now.
Spend a few minutes a day writing about the previous day’s positive aspects, challenges which occurred, and reflect on those for a bit.
Not only will that provide you with the opportunity to appreciate the little things more, but it will also make you remember just a little bit more.
And making that practice daily will pile up over time to a great deal of memories you could use in the future to further improve your life!
Why won’t you smile?
If you’ve never tried it before, try forcing a smile right now.
Feels weird, doesn’t it?
And yet, it has a positive effect on your brain and body. I won’t go in details into the science behind it as I am sure I wouldn’t be able to explain it well enough. However, to put it in simple terms, it creates a reaction within your body that has an effect close to happiness.
Don’t get me wrong. I am not saying you’ll be happy the moment you smile. It will still feel awkward. But the longer you learn to keep a “manufactured” smile, the happier your body will feel.
While I really believe “true” happiness cannot be reached, hints of it here and there will create, over time, an overall feeling of positivism, allowing you to act on more things you’d have left on the side otherwise.
So why not give it a go? Try smiling while you focus on writing about the previous day or on letting your mind wander and let me know how it goes! No matter the state of your life may be right now, any change you want to make will have to start from within.