As the year comes to an end, we all think back about how 2019 was. Was it a good year? Could it have been better? What did I do wrong? How awesome can I make 2020?
And we start making resolutions that disappear by the end of January. Resolutions vary greatly between each individual, but what we need to do is actually the same thing. We need to keep our focus on making the next year great.
If we want to do so, there are 4 easy steps that will not only make 2020 a wonderful year but maybe even the rest of our lives. Won’t you join me on that journey?
Go back to being a child
Children evolve every single day. They challenge themselves, they try things out and let go of things at an incredible pace. After all, it’s common for children to cry for 15 minutes and then go on playing, forgetting the very existence of whatever made them cry.
This mindset of going forward is missing in our daily lives as adults but there is one factor we can easily bring one back with a few steps: becoming curious again.
Children ask tonnes of questions. They’re always wondering about the reason behind every single thing while we, as grown-ups, just assume their existence and move on with our lives, thus missing opportunities to grow and learn.
To fix this, start by asking yourself simple questions about the reason behind daily things. Why is the shape of that cloud that way? Why is that flower still blooming despite the cold? Why do I prefer this shampoo to that one? Why am I finding this scenery beautiful?
Then extend this habit to the rest of your world, in your job, your circle, and even your past. All this will trigger you to want to learn and improve further.
And as humans, that’s what our brain needs to be happy.
You probably want to do many things and just push most of them away again and again until you will get “enough time” to spend on it. But there is no such thing. We are all constantly busy and time isn’t so available anymore. Even at home, your phone keeps you full of “tasks” constantly.
So instead of waiting, whenever you have a few minutes, just start on whatever you would like to do. If, in the end, you do have time, then just keep on tackling it. If not, those 2 or 5 minutes will have been better than nothing.
But above all, don’t stop starting! Even when you have bad days, keep your streak up and work on the tasks you want to handle. The single fact that you kept to it despite everything will build confidence in yourself and keep motivation high.
We say this many times a day as a reaction to something someone just did for us. But do you ever say it without a trigger?
Make a habit to spend a few minutes every single day to look back either at the day that just finished (if in the evening) or the previous day (if in the morning) and say thanks for at least 3 things.
They don’t have to be big, but it’ll allow you to focus on the positivity around you. You can even say thanks for how good that smoothie you drank yesterday was. Or for simply breathing.
The goal is to find the beauty in things and, as time passes by, you will find some even when you’re not looking.
Finally, to be truly happy and have a great life, you need to learn to be alone, to stop relying on the approval of others. For this to happen, you’ll have to do the hardest thing of all: Disconnect from technology.
No, I’m not telling you to become a digital minimalist — although it wouldn’t hurt — but I’m asking you to spend less time on your phone connected to the world.
We don’t realize how much time we spend online because it’s spread out over the span of a day, but let me assure you, we spend way too much time connected.
Furthermore, it isn’t for nothing that ideas often come in showers. We’re alone left with our thoughts during them. So can you imagine how many ideas you could get if you were alone for longer spans of time?
The best technique I have found is to set a screen time limit and set a password only one friend has. Nobody you could see every day either; just to make things a bit more complicated.
I’m a big YouTube guy and by 8:30 a.m., my 1-hour limit is usually reached. If I open once Facebook, my 30 minutes limit will surely be over by 10 a.m. too. Then I’m stuck on my own, which allows for more introspection and questioning of the world.
Combine all the above and then, no matter what happens, you’ll arrive in 2021 thinking 2020 was just awesome which, without fault, it will have been!