We have all thought at one point in our life something similar to the below:
“If only I could find a girlfriend/boyfriend, I know it would help in becoming happy.”
Yet, we have all gotten our heart broken by at least one person after believing we had found “the One”.
So what should we be careful of? Thinking happiness cannot happen without someone else.
There are many people in this world that go through life without a partner and still live happily. I know some of them and one in particular has always been among the most positively happy people I’ve met in my life.
Happiness is something which can be shared. But it isn’t something that can be received from others. Outside components contribute to us becoming happy but, in the end, the happiness we get is only our own.
You can explain, share, show the world your happiness but not a single person will be able to understand the total extent of it. They may get a part of it, feel the happiness flowing from us, but nothing you can do will permit the other to experience the exact same amount.
Being in love is an incredible feeling. I am sure we have all felt it at one point and whether you still are or not, you certainly remember this overwhelming experience.
Sharing it with your partner is also part of the pleasure and overall happiness experienced. Yet we often mistake love itself with happiness.
It can be a part of it. Yes, definitely.
But we need to learn one of the most important facts in our lives:
Your happiness is just yours.
If you insist in pushing yourself to find happiness through others, you can never truly be happy. Any single negative outside action will crush you and make you forget all the positive in your life.
So concentrate on yourself. Find peace within yourself and learn to be happy without anybody’s support.
But wouldn’t it be a sad life to be happy on my own?
Yes, you’re right. It probably would. But your happiness will simply shine around you and be felt by the people around you. You may start to inspire others to look within to find their own happiness.
Obviously, I am not saying that Love is not related to happiness at all. Being in love can contribute to an increased happiness.
However a relationship cannot work well if you hope it, only, will bring you happiness. You need to be already happy to appreciate a loving relationship and make it flourish.
To make it simply: happiness is not equivalent to love but if you can make sure to have both, then they will merge into something even more beautiful.