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Blaming Others Is A Basic Mistake You Need To Stop
We all do mistakes and we unfortunately often end up blaming others for those.
“It’s his fault I couldn’t do this.”
“It’s their fault I lost motivation to do that.”
“I could have done it if they hadn’t bothered me.”
“They got me into a bad mental state so I didn’t do it.”
Blaming others is a very common thing to do. We all do it pretty much daily. As a French person, I am also particularly prone to do this since I grew up complaining constantly. I would even dare say I’ve complained a lot for a French person.
Yet, is it really useful? Do you have even one example of it having contributed to something positive in your life?
Go ahead. Take your time and think hard about it.
I doubt you do.
Blaming others takes the object of your discontentment outside of your Circle of Influence.
The circle of Influence contains all the things which you can impact directly. This also includes feelings obviously.
Blaming others changes the “owner” of said trouble. If others were to own what bothers you, you then lose the opportunity to get better, to move past what bothers you.
