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How To Make Your Anger Work For You Instead of Against You
Anger is such a strong negative feeling, our natural response to it is to repress it. It makes sense after all. Why would we want negative feelings at any time?
The problem with this automatic response to anger is the fact that it does not allow us to deal with it properly and thus prevents us from being efficient in other tasks.
The more we hold in our brain, the less able to focus we become.
This is the reason why so many experts explain the importance of writing down lists of things we need to do, think about, or sometimes even let go of. By writing down on a piece of paper what is in your brain, it provides more space for the rest.
Due to its strongness, unfortunately, anger cannot be simply let go. Even after writing it down, we will keep it in a corner of our brain until it is resolved. Of course, the impact itself is lowered during this period, but it does not resolve the problem at hand.
Anger being a strong feeling is also an advantage in itself.
Take your time and think about the last time you were feeling particularly great and did a lot of what you had planned. Why were you able to realize so much?
