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How To Prevent Yourself From Losing Temper
We all have things that get us to lose temper all of a sudden.
Just like many smokers, one of mine is when I get told over and over how smoking is bad for you. After smoking for 9 years, I am obviously well aware of the risks.
My girlfriend has asked me to quit but I am not planning on fulling quitting as of right now. I just want to reduce it and am doing efforts towards that goal.
Yet a few months back after the 10th conversation about this, she asked me once more a question I had heard a thousand times:
“What do you even like in smoking?”
I had had a long day and this triggered me into closing up all of a sudden. I bluntly replied that we had already talked about this and didn’t want to discuss it anymore. It created a very awkward silence.
Having started to meditate 10–15 minutes every day since last September, I thought I had learned to control my feelings so this abrupt response surprised me.
While time has passed I am still disappointed in myself for this reaction.
However, it did allow me to notice this trigger.
Indeed, the most efficient way to learn to control your temper is to be aware of your…
