Should we just stop here then? Is there more to say?
Well, I tend to believe there is.
Self-confidence is quite over-rated after all.
We look up to people, find them impressive, wish to become like them or simply just get a tiny bit closer to who they are.
Even within our closest circle, there are always people we want to learn from.
“How is that person doing so well?”
“Wow, he is so at ease with others!”
“I wish I were as confident.”
Such thoughts cross our minds regularly. I am not one to dismiss it and I dare say I am proud of my uneasiness.
Even the most confident-looking people do lack confidence in themselves from time to time. We are all humans after all.
So why am I proud of my lack of self-confidence?
Because I have accepted it as a part of me.
Realizing you lack confidence gives you the opportunity to act on it. Not that by acting on it, you will ever get rid of it though.
Even the most successful and happy people on earth lack confidence. The difference is simple:
They do not let it control their life.
Wait a second. If you lack self-confidence, how can you not be impacted by it?
I know. Sounds weird, doesn’t it?
Yet, it is that simple. Recognizing your lack of self-confidence provides you with the opportunity to move past it and do what you originally would have believed impossible.
Lacking self-confidence is something which builds up over time and shapes the rest of our personality as well as what we decide to do with our life.
If you dig deep in your “Why”, you can find a stronger and deeper meaning to your actions.
Through self-searching, I have noticed how much my lack of self-confidence has impacted the way my life has evolved.
Is it a bad thing? Would I have done things differently if I had been more confident? Quite probably.
Do I regret how my life turned out so far? Not one bit.
The hardships I have had, the successes I have had, the friends I have are all precious to me and I wouldn’t trade those for anything in the world.
You may simply not realize it but your own lack of self-confidence may be the root of your actions today.
Why did you move to that place? Why did you start your own company? Why did you learn X?
I’m quite sure there’s at least one of those questions’ answer which stems from a lack of self-confidence.
Don’t take it the wrong way and feel disappointed to realize such a “negative” trait impacted you so much. Embrace it, learn to use that lack of self-confidence to become an even better version of yourself than you are.
To put it in a nutshell: Make it work for you instead of against you.