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Is There Such A Thing As a “Perfect” Break-Up?
I’ll miss my ex for a long time but I know I can move on thanks to these lessons.
I broke up with my girlfriend about a month ago and I miss her like hell. There. I said it.
It was the hardest thing I ever did and will probably stay that way for quite some time. I had to gather more courage than I even thought I had but I did it.
Let me be clear. This breakup wasn’t the I hate you kind of breakup. I broke up with her while still being in love with her because I could see we were diverging and knew it would be better to break up now than when we’d be married and have children.
Like anybody else, I absolutely sucked at giving the news. I didn’t know what to say even though I had thought hard about it and tried to imagine every potential way the conversation could go. Yet, the shock was so big, she couldn’t process it and kept on telling me one thing.
“I don’t understand.”
Those words, repeated over and over again, got carved into my skull and just thinking about it brings me back to that fatal evening. I will probably connect those words to this experience for many years to come.
