It’s now been more than a year since I decided I really wanted to become a better version of myself. I’ve worked on it constantly, probably more than I’ve ever worked on anything.
It hasn’t always been easy, but I’ve made progress. A whole lot even.
In that time, I have started to inspire some friends to follow a similar path, even if they may not have decided to go as hard as I am.
Waking up early, between 5 and 5:30 a.m. most days, has been a major change and had the biggest impact of all actions I’ve taken.
While I am proud of myself for the consistency I’ve had, I do get doubts and negative thoughts regularly.
Am I doing things well? What am I doing which I think is useful but is not? Could I do more? And so on.
When it comes to it though, I know I’ll need to accept the fact that I cannot be perfect.
“The first thing is to be honest with yourself. You can never have an impact on society if you have not changed yourself… Great peacemakers are all people of integrity, of honesty, but humility.” — Nelson Mandela
As expected of Nelson Mandela, truer words couldn’t be said.
Humility is the sign of Greatness
In that past year, I’ve spent hundreds of hours watching YouTube, playing Super Smash Bros Ultimate (SSBU) and even a few tens of hours watching Netflix. Those are not contributing to my long term goals and should be avoided at all costs obviously.
Yet, I enjoy them.
Many advice focuses on the importance to give up almost everything for your goals.
It makes sense: If you’re trying to change yourself, then you need to change your life and daily activities.
However, this also reminds me of one of Gary Vee’s recurring points: If you’re happy where you are, then don’t complain. If you’re not, then you need to change.
So, am I happy with how my life is unfolding right now? Yes. I love YouTube and SSBU. But I do love developing myself too.
If that’s the case, what am I supposed to do?
Accept my success will take more time.
Who’s in a hurry anyway?
Even if you’re looking for success right now and working your butt off toward it, you still won’t get it before many months or years.
Acceptance also means happiness
If it’s going to take me, say, 5 years to get to where I want to be working constantly and 7 or 8 years if I watch YouTube and play games, then I’d rather evolve while happy because I still get to enjoy these hobbies.
When you know yourself enough and become humble enough to accept your downfalls, you open the door to a new feeling: happiness.
I’ve spent quite a few months considering I was watching way too much YouTube but did I enjoy these videos I watched? I did.
Do you know when I was feeling bad about myself? When I was considering I should be doing something else.
You don’t have to be the incarnation of hustle to be fulfilled.
You could, of course, be happy with constant hustling — Look at Gary Vee for instance — but you don’t have to.
I want to live through writing. One day. I’d like it sooner than later. But I am entirely fine with it taking years before I even get to be recognized as a writer by others. For me, I’m a writer already simply because I write.
I’ll work a whole lot until I get there though and won’t give up. But I’ll also enjoy my time playing games, watching YouTube and meeting friends.
How about you? Will you find the courage to accept your imperfections and be happy?