It’s Ok To Cry Even If You’re a Man

I cry so my future can be better…

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For years, if not more than a decade, I was “proud ”of myself for not having cried for a long time. Indeed, I can barely remember crying between middle school and a few years ago. I am sure I did but definitely not at an uncontrollable level.

Even when my exes broke up with me, despite the sadness taking over, pretty much no tears came. I considered crying was not a “manly” thing to do and, as a result, willingly turned my sadness into anger. The good old “What have I done to deserve this?!”.

It was mostly aimed at myself but clearly wasn’t a good solution to get over whatever happened to me. This had some long-term repercussions such as a lack of trust or a need to be liked.

Those are just two of the ones I noticed and, as such, was able to somehow work on and fix. However, I am sure there are countless others waiting to be discovered deeper within.

Thanks to having become more self-aware and accepted who I am, I now cry without shame.

But why did it ever get considered “girly”?

More than anything else, I believe it comes down to our muscles letting go.