No matter how you grew up, there was a time — usually adolescence I guess — when you started to want to distance yourself from the rest of the world. You wanted to be right by opposing your parents, teachers or friends.
You wanted to be independent. You were told relying on others isn’t a good mindset to have and you took that to heart, trying to find your difference compared to others.
Becoming financially independent, learning to make your own opinions, trying to be innovative in your own way.
Yet, are those pieces of advice to hold true whatever the situation?
I bet to differ.
Learning to lean on others is crucial to evolve in our world. So why should you always try to do everything on your own then?
You simply shouldn’t.
Having your own opinion is important. But what if that opinion was based on flawed information.
Why not simply get a second, third or even fourth opinion?
You may not like all of them but if you keep an open mind, you will be able to find important data which can become critical in your development.
I often praise self-improvement. Working on yourself is one of the most useful uses of your time, without fault.
Yet, you have only lived your life once. Your actions are the results of what you experienced until now. The actions of others are the result of their experiences.
Being somehow who depends on others’ opinions, bits of advice and support can provide you with great insight to become even better than you ever thought.
Books are often praised as a way to get insight into years or decades of knowledge from experts in their field.
They are a great starting point.
Exchanging, learning from people closer to you, relying on their strengths, working as a team, avoiding the errors they made, those are all crucial to becoming a better version of yourself.
But I love my independence!
I know, letting go of your independence is a very difficult task.
You are used to learning your language on your own, following your own agenda. You are used to handling your project’s production on your own. You largely prefer improving through trial and error.
But this is because you have evolved this way.
Is it good? Maybe. But what if there was an even better way?
Think you’ll find it on your own? You may. But you’ll waste precious time you could have spent going forward after listening to different opinions.
So give up some of your independence and go back to being a child for a bit. Back to when you didn’t care whether you were the one with the idea or who acted.
You just learned from what you saw around you and evolve just as you needed to.
Maybe this time again you’ll improve and become a better version of yourself by simply looking around.