Gosh, the grass is so much greener on the other side, isn’t?
Like many people, I’ve spent quite some time thinking I wanted to branch out, to become a “new” me. I wanted to start writing so I did.
Look at my profile, I said it from the beginning. I am trying to “become more than just a language geek”. And now, almost a year after I started to write online, I realize that my articles which have been the most interesting and well-received were the ones about languages.
We want to change, we see opportunities around, and often enough, we’ll forget why we even became who we currently are.
If you’ve spent your life in an area and you want to change, why is it that the agreed concept is to throw away our old self?
We’re already good
Changing what you want to do doesn’t have to mean giving up what you’ve done until now.
On the contrary, it should mean to use it in a different way.
If you’re good at something, giving it up entirely would mean all the time put in it until now would go to waste. Why do we keep on trying this?
Until now, I used to think that since I speak many languages, I should focus on using those with other people and act as some sort of coordinator between people who don’t speak the same language.
Wanting to start writing felt like something entirely different. I had to change and give up my focus on languages to become a writer. But I can now clearly see sharing the love of languages and helping other learning languages through writing is a quite natural expansion on my already existing skills.
Think outside of the box
Almost every innovation came from the idea of seeing something which already existed and a wish to make it better.
Making something better is thus an evolution instead of a creation.
Creating something takes a whole lot of time while evolving is just a natural change which takes less time.
No matter how similarly to some other people you grew up, there will always be variations which make all of us unique.
You may have been brought up by the same parents as your brother, your classmates and teachers were different. Your best friend may have done everything as you did, her parents taught her differently.
If we’re all unique, this means our ideas can be unique too.
But for this, we need to know ourselves first
You might think you know yourself well, but if you’ve never spent hours on end thinking positively of the experiences you’ve gone through, both positive and negative one, you are wrong.
What you have is an overall idea. And that is different from actually knowing yourself.
Knowing yourself is being aware of your strengths, weaknesses, interests, and goals. It means understanding and accepting your fears. It means to take active decisions instead of letting yourself follow the flow.
This takes a whole lot of time and honesty with yourself.
There will be times you come to hate who you have become, what you did or didn’t do. Those are crucial times and have a strong impact on your future self.
I might have tried to become a writer at the expense of being a polyglot until now. But after so much time in my thoughts and having accepted who I am, I now realize I could simply become a polyglot writer.
What does that mean? It just means I’ve accepted my love of languages once again. But this time, in a different mindset.
How about you? What are you good at and have tried to push away?