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You Don't Have To Feel Good All The Time
To be more precise, you shouldn’t.
About a month has passed since my grandmother passed away and I left my girlfriend. As time passes, things get better they say. But do they really?
There is a reason for so many people never getting over the loss of a loved one and entering a long period of depression. Luckily enough, I am quite sure I am avoiding such a reaction thanks to my approach to sadness.
The automatic response we have to a sorrowful event is to hope to get back to a “happy state” as quickly as possible. As a result, we end up pushing further and further any negative thoughts. On the surface, it would seem like a rather good solution: if you don’t think about it, then it isn’t there. Right?
Unfortunately, that is the wrong approach to such situations because it means we are trying to be happy without processing the experience fully.
Of course, letting ourselves fall prey to sadness without restraint is also a common pitfall. We just delve into the past, remembering all the good times and how much we miss those.
Like most people, I have done so numerous times throughout my life. After all, it took me about 3 years before I really got over my first ex.
