Your Anger is the Most Important Feeling of All
Have you ever been in a great mood, planning loads of things to do in your incoming day, knowing that there’ll be plenty of pleasant memories created that day? I suppose you have.
Now, in the middle of that awesome day, things start to go south. Nothing goes as planned, everything start being a mess and your day just keeps on getting worse and worse. This has happened to you as well I suppose, hasn’t it?
This is often what people call the “Murphy’s Law”. If one thing can and goes wrong, then the rest will as well. And it just keeps on getting worse and worse and no end seems in sight.
You finish your day in your couch angry at the world, thinking that this day was the worst and that obviously since nothing has gone right, why would they tomorrow?
You go to bed and next thing you know, you wake up happy the next day and matters are all getting better, one after another.
This has been happening to me quite a lot recently and I’m afraid today has been one of those. I haven’t gone to bed yet so I am trying to be hopeful in thinking that tomorrow will be fine but it may not. I guess, as people say, “that’s life”.
Having every single action taken today not going the right way has put me in an incredibly negative mood but it has in some way pushed me to write this article in the evening despite having started another one this morning when I woke up.
Whenever bad luck keeps on happening, it doesn’t really matter what we had planned, what goals we had, who we were supposed to meet up with. Everything loses sense and even if we somehow push ourselves to do one of those planned things, we end up failing it too, which gets on our nerves even more.
This being said though, we develop a strength we believed not to have and are able of some things we didn’t care nor knew about just before. From what I have read in the past, this seems to be due to some hormones acting up and pushing our boundaries without our knowledge.
Being happy for something motivates us, pushes us to go the extra mile, think outside the box and all. Yet, sometimes we think that there’s that “little something” missing.
What if anger was it?
If you could control this anger perfectly, wouldn’t that allow you to bring it out for specific purposes? Instead of letting it bubble up within yourself and then exploding at one point, I believe we should try to accept it.
To truly be happy, you first need to know what is being unhappy. To be disappointed, you need to know what are expectations. The list goes on. Opposites are needed for either to exist. Anger is the opposite of pleasure and as such, without it, we wouldn’t be able to know what is pleasure.
Its presence is thus crucial to our existence and trying to get rid of anger altogether is futile. We need that horrible feeling despite constantly hoping for it to disappear.
To control something, we first need to accept it. This changes it from something “new” to something “we know”, thus bringing it closer to the realm of control.
You can then bring yourself to analyze the type of anger and what it is directed towards. It may be that you are angry because of what someone did to you, that anger could be directed towards yourself, etc.
Doing this already starts putting you in a rather difference mood as it pushes you into that new mood that I call “angrily efficient”. The anger, pushes you to act, not only to think outside the box but break it, not only to go the extra mile, but to run for another marathon instead.
Make peace with it and accept the fact that you are angry. Many of us realize it and instantly start overlooking it as if it has no impact on our life.
On the contrary, use that anger, focus it and ride this dark wave of energy flowing through you. You may have one of the best ideas you’ve ever had!
Or, you know, you may just write this article as well!
